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I swear to God, I hate people who turn into completely different people for no reason whatsoever. You know someone...they act one way for so long, then they totally change. I hate how people who always acted like they love you so much turn and care so little for you. They say they're friends, yet they don't act like it at all. It's what's best tho! So they say! Insane!! I swear, all of this is driving me fucking insane. Selfish fucking people doing selfish things...and things that they KNOW are not even good for THEM let alone anyone else in their life...What is WRONG with people?!?!?! Can I get some normal fucking people who aren't Jekyl and Hyde up in this piece?!!!!!!!! UGH!

no comment,just wanted to post.

"up in this piece"
never would have said that if you hadn't met me. :P

i thought about saying a little something here, but i won't. i'm sorry, josh. :(

yea kate. clearly shannon must know you...since she knows youre not "grown up." how nice, huh?

Kate, someday when you're a grown up, we'll talk.

sorry for my mistakes in my typing...skills=suck

Josh..I disagree with Shannon (the i know the answers to everyones problems) Sorry if I cam across as rude but hey...you're going through a hard ass time..if he needs to say what he is let him. WHo is she to say you can't. I hope all ends well. I'm not signing this to give advice because frankley I don't have a clue as to what to say or even do. But I think you keep teeling her why you two need to be together or whatever that's good so she';ll keep in mind what she means to you..which is alot right? RIGHT. so damnit dont listen to that shannon chick, do what feels right. You can make the right decision....take care!! -Kate

I know part of it. Well, probably 65% of it. I know part of Lisa's side and the side of the rants you often post (and then delete when you calm down.)

I think what you need to understand is that pushing and trying to force feelings and whatnot to happen, is only going to push her further away. If it were reverse and this person whom you'd just broken up with was all up in your face, wouldn't you be annoyed? I'd be freaked out and telling them to stick it, but the again, I've got a big mouth. *shrugs*

And even though you're hurting, the whole, "I feel like I'm dying" stuff probably is coming off as whining. It's the kind of stuff girls generally roll their eyes at. We'd rather hear, "Ya know, right now things are confusing, but I'm going to give you time to figure out what you want and if it isn't me, I'm content to be your friend because I want you to be happy and if being with me doesn't make you happy, so be it. If in the end we get back together, then that is how it was meant to be."

Just be normal. What is supposed to happen is going to happen. (Trust me.) You can't force it either way. Also, you've got to prepare yourself for the chance that it doesn't go the way you want it to. Sometimes people's hearts change. It isn't anybody's fault, it just happens. (Yes, really, it does.)

I'd definitely say just take a while and exist as a solitary person. Don't concentrate so much on "winning her back." It probably will only result in pushing her even further away and becoming an even bigger mess. If everything can just chill for a while, it's bound to get better.

Seriously, it is going to get better. Freaking out when she doesn't do or say or act the way you want her to isn't going to make things better or get her back. You may never get her back. That's life. She probably isn't the first and probably isn't the last. Life and love are complicated things. You learn and grow and heal and life goes on. *shrugs*

if you only knew the whole story...

To clarify -- "Talking like that" meaning the rant you just posted.

You keep talking about how much you want her back. Talking like that certainly isn't going to get the job done. (And going on and on about how you're meant to be together and all that junk isn't going to help either.) Just chill. What's supposed to happen will happen. You can't FORCE stuff to happen. Life doesn't work that way. Feel better. For real.